A Few Ways To Add More Sizzle In the Bedroom and More
The following tips do not discriminate. They are for both gay and straight couples(sometimes both, depending on how adventurous you are.
There may have been a time (especially in the beginning) where you could not keep your hands off one another. You spent all night and all weekend in bed( sometimes mornings). You just could not stop. Everything you did made you want sex. It’s fun in the beginning, isn’t it?
Things change though. You get a new job. You get married and have a few kids(if that is your situation). You always tell yourself that you will find your way back, and then something else happens.
You have to work on your love life because it is part of the relationship. Otherwise, you will remain in the rut.
How can you find your way back?
1)Boring and Routine
It could be that one or both of you feel your sex life has gotten boring(we call that vanilla). Sometimes you need to shake things up. Try something you never tried before. Some couples who keep having the same boring sex every day end up feeling disconnected and bored.
Try talking dirty(if you can and know how to). Those who do not know how to talk dirty better learn.
It has been documented that most couples(gay and straight)are only comfortable with 3 positions. That is not going to help you when you get bored. Try to learn a different position. One reason that some couples get bored in the bedroom is due to “the same old, same old”.
Find a different time to have sex. Your husband might be making dinner and wearing the pants that make you horny for him. Try to stimulate him before he gets too engrossed in what he is doing. Your husband will want a different kind of meal if you do it right. That could take you and him out of your current rut. This is just one suggestion to help give you some ideas.
3)Outside the Box
Another reason why your sex life could have become boring is due to a lack of imagination. Sex requires you to think outside of the box. That means you have to stop being prudish about certain things if you want this to work(that goes for both couples in the relationship regardless of orientation).
Experiment and find what you both like, different role plays, toys like 성인용품, different locations etc.. Sex is not the time for hangups. Sex is the time for fun and incredible, mind-blowing orgasms. Time to bring the sizzle back and get back to why you fell in love.
You may also want to check out this awesome TED talk, it gives you some unique perspective into sex: